3. LIFE PARTNER 8th June 2018

One fine day I chatted with Prof Goh, the topic of the conversation is how to find a life partner. He outlines few simple rule.

1^st RULE: Both must understand each other. Upon passing the first rule, go to 2^nd RULE

2^nd RULE: Both must respect each other. Let said you like football, she like ballet. Bothe must respect each other choice.

3^rd RULE: If you need assistance you partner is willing to help vice-versa.

The first 3 rules, should be fulfilled in order for a successful relationship.

4^th RULE: Physical attraction. Not a necessary criteria but preferable to have.

Well, the mistake happen for men is that they look at the 4^th RULE as main criteria.

Upon through investigation and ponder. I agreed with his judgemental advice. After long thought, I think this is “NOT LOVE”, this is search for compatible partner or friend. If you love someone, you won’t care much about all these rules but be prepared to suffer for incompatibility if any. If you love someone, just call her out for a date. See how it goes from there. If acceptable then get married, have kids etc.

Well, that is all from Professor Goh ground rule.

For western approach, one should look at the zodiac compatibility matrix at the end of this website link article.

https://astrologyanswers.com/compatibility/love/

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For Chinese, there also a lunar compatibility matrix at

https://www.travelchinaguide.com/intro/social_customs/zodiac/compatibility.htm

Generally, one should get a partner whose age difference are in odd number of years.  Example, husband 22, wife is 21, 19, 17 etc.

For more accurate prediction, one should study Zi Wei Dou Shou and BaZi to find a compatible partner. In some calculation for certain people, there is recommendation for one to get married late in 30s or 40s, and for women to wed a husband who is much2 more older than them for happy marriage. The topic is too wide and lengthy to be covered. If most of the above criteria (prof GOH criteria + zodiac + lunar compatibility) is met, and there is not much discomfort/argument during dating proccess, then can proceed lah.

Thus, given these information, good luck in your hunting, scouting and dating process. In the process, you can selectively filter out incompatible candidates. Your life partner is one of your single important investment because you share most of your time with her/him.

Would you rather spend more time in getting the right partner or more time arguing /having hard times after marriage. For some, “I still young 20/wait later lah”, Right now you may not be interested ok fine but at the moment just add all your female friends in your facebook. U will be surprised if you need to date them later on. Vice-versa.

During my days, 20 years ago (before social networking), if you lost contact of one of your potential candidate girlfriend, what is the probability that you going to find her again. Let me tell U. It is “0000000000000000000000”. OK. With facebook, this is solved but it’s opened up the competition for others. So, happy hunting.!